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nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity
for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a
personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle
factors, and every other topic listed within.
navigational hint: all underlined link words
open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!
It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes.
"Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
welcome...
i'm really glad to see you!
you've found your way to
the emotional feelings network of sites
what was once - extremely emotional
is now
feeling emotional, five!
What was once - (5 years ago) - only
"understanding anxiety"
is now an entire network of 28 + self-help personal growth & recovery journey informational
websites.
Your dictionary definition of:
sin·cere
adjective, -cer·er, -cer·est.
1. |
free of deceit, hypocrisy, or falseness; earnest: a
sincere apology. |
| 2. |
genuine; real: a sincere
effort to improve; a sincere friend. |
| 3. |
pure; unmixed; unadulterated. |
| 4. |
Obsolete. sound; unimpaired. |
[Origin: 1525–35;
< L sincérus pure, clean, untainted ]
—Related forms
sin·cere·ly,
adverb
sin·cere·ness,
noun
—Synonyms 1.
frank, candid, honest, open, guileless; unaffected. See earnest1.
—Antonyms 1,
2. false.
Why would someone spend
1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?
I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It
does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of
personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!
How would I find the time?
Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine
my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:
"Helping yourself thru helping others..."
I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's
wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!
My immediate concern was " mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to
a "mental problem."
I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing
in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms
of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.
Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials
for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources
of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life. So
I'll start with the mental health site that now exists within the network:
I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone
else.
But since the ruination of the " extremely emotional"
site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -
"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of
course!)
or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?
Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?"
& I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative!
This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the " positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained " power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.
After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page
of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words " s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.
"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be
sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity
to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!
I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not
just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences
to emotions & feelings!
I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!
kathleen
Important notice:
Please be patient! I thank you for your visit to the site and I apologize
for any inconvenience if your emotion or feeling isn't available at this time!!
With the unfortunate, untimely and mostly unexpected deletion of my extremely emotional site - it's been
difficult to delete all the links from that site throughout 28+ sites - then the construction of this site in replacement
of the deleted site - then re-establishing the underlined work links throughout 28+ sites!!! it's been quite a job!
As you can see... this replacement site is going up as fast as I can possibly
work it! Thank you again for your patience and please stop by daily to see if the emotion or feeling you were searching for
has been posted!
kathleen
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 Crazy Talk or Clear Communication?
By Paul & Layne
Cutright
Kevin
apologized to Melissa after he missed an appointment. It was a simple misunderstanding, so Melissa said she wasn't really
upset, just frustrated and disappointed.
But Kevin sensed there was more to it. Melissa's smile seemed
forced,
and he felt there was more she wanted to say, but Melissa insisted they forget about it and move on. Still,
Kevin had an uneasy feeling in the pit of his stomach.
Emotional
Incongruence
Emotional authenticity - acknowledging your true feelings - initiates enlightened conflict resolution.
Yet this can be compromised by emotional incongruence: denying or trying to cover your true feelings, either intentionally
or not.
Most people have learned to hide their feelings. They've learned to be guarded because dropping the mask and
being emotionally honest can lead to feeling vulnerable. In the heat of the moment, it can be hard to see how honesty and
vulnerability might be good, how completely disarming they can be and how important they are to building trust and compassion.
No,
in the heat of the moment, hiding seems like a better idea. And to make it more complex, sometimes you know you are doing
it, and sometimes you don't.
Sometimes you lie about your feelings to get the upper hand. It's almost always a self-defeating
move, though, because it is so transparent. People may not notice the deceit right away, but after they have had a chance
to reflect, the truth usually dawns. They may not confront you because it is not worth the effort, but they will feel wary
and simply "go polite" and keep their distance. Just as Kevin did with Melissa.
At other times, you may be out of touch
with your feelings and try to fool yourself into maintaining a particular self-image. Perhaps you're trying to keep up the
appearance of being nice or spiritual or in control. But just beneath the surface, the fear of looking bad, or being wrong
or cast aside, dictates your defensiveness. Others almost always experience your defensiveness as aggression, which escalates
arguments. You may think you are communicating clearly, but you are sending mixed messages. Just as Melissa did.
Mixed
Messages
The words of a conversation are transmitted on an invisible carrier wave of emotion. More powerful than the
words alone, the emotion is "louder."
Consequently,
one of the worst things you can do is lie about your feelings or try to hide them. All that does is send mixed messages and
make others feel as if they are standing on shaky ground, causing all manner of silent alarms and red alert signals to clamor
through their energy field. There is a dreadful, unsettling feeling that comes with that "everything looks okay, so why does
it feel so bad and where is the danger really coming from?" feeling that usually throbs in your stomach and raises your hackles.
Just
as it is easy to tell when someone is being emotionally incongruent, it can be equally difficult to know when you are doing
it yourself. It can be extremely difficult for people who hold a high value for peace or kindness to be honest with themselves,
or anyone else for that matter, about their darker emotions. It can generate a deep inner conflict to have "hateful" feelings
when you see yourself as a "nice" person.
If
you have been a victim of emotional violence, it can be even more difficult.
If
You Want To Be Emotionally Congruent ...
Over time, people automatically suppress feelings they judge to be "bad."
This leads to acute emotional incongruence. What can be so crazy making is you can't feel the feelings you are transmitting
to others. If you want to be emotionally congruent, you must recognize the importance of learning to feel safe with all your
emotions.
Look
to see the role fear or anger has played in your life. In the case of Kevin and Melissa, it is likely that Melissa had some
old feelings, of which she was unaware, triggered by her interaction with Kevin, who then picked up on the uncomfortable residue
and put up his defenses.
It
is entirely possible that Melissa was being perfectly sincere in her statement that there
was nothing more, simply because she was not in touch with her deeper feelings.
© 2006 Paul and Layne Cutright –
All rights reserved.
You may publish this article in its entirety and with the authors’ resource information intact.
Author's
Bio
Layne and Paul Cutright are
relationship coaches and teachers who have been offering secrets and strategies for successful relationships at home and in
business since 1976. They are authors of the best selling book, You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think - Secrets and
Strategies for Resolving Any Upset Quickly and Easily. www.PaulandLayne.com
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you've been visiting
feeling emotional, 5
this site is being designed to take the place of extremely emotional!
please have a great day & take a few minutes to explore
some of the other sites in the emotional feelings network of sites!
explore the unresolved emotions & feelings that may be the cause of some of your pain & hurt... be curious & open
to new possibilities! thanks again for visiting at feeling emotional, 5!
almost 30 sites, all designed, editted & maintained by kathleen!
until next time: consider
yourself hugged by a friend today!
til' next time! kathleen
**disclaimer**
this
is simply an informational website concerning emotions & feelings. it does not advise anyone to perform methods -treatments -
practice described within, endorse methods described anywhere within or advise any visitor with medical or psychological
treatment that should be considered only thru a medical doctor, medical professional, or mental health professional.
in no way are we a medical professional or mental health professional.
thank you for visiting feeling emotional 5!
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