nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle factors, and every other topic listed within.

navigational hint: all underlined link words open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!

It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!

Reason being: If you're here because you're searching for an answer to your feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, feeling sick, or just general feelings of misery in your life - you need to find a volunteer opportunity that you feel comfortable with.

You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!

Why not just click here now to get it over with! So even if you leave this site after finding some information concerning an emotion or feeling... you'll also leave with the seed of thought concerning volunteer work that might produce some results bringing you a sense of accomplishment & find yourself feeling better!

welcome...

i'm really glad to see you!

you've found your way to

the emotional feelings network of sites

what was once - extremely emotional

is now

feeling emotional, five!

What was once - (5 years ago) - only

"understanding anxiety"

is now an entire network of 28 + self-help personal growth & recovery journey informational websites.

Your Dictionary Definition Of:

suc·cess noun

1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.

2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.

3. a successful performance or achievement: The play was an instant success.

4. a person or thing that is successful: She was a great success on the talk show.

5 years ago I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, depression & I was also experiencing an eating disorder that no one knew anything about; night eating.

While I was miserable in experiencing all the symptoms of post traumatic stress, an anxiety disorder & depression - which often accompanies anxiety disorders; I was overjoyed in finally finding out what was wrong with me!

all the lonely people, where do they all come from

Why would someone spend 1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?

I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!

How would I find the time?

Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:

"Helping yourself thru helping others..."

I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!

what is your situation now? how are you feeling?

My immediate concern was "mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to a "mental problem."

I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.

Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life. So I'll start with the mental health site that now exists within the network:

anxieties 101

celebrate each & every small accomplishment!

I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone else.

But since the ruination of the "extremely emotional" site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -

"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of course!)

or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?

Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?" & I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative!

This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the "positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained "power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.

After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words "s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.

"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!

I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences to emotions & feelings!

I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!

kathleen

Important notice:

Please be patient! I thank you for your visit to the site and I apologize for any inconvenience if your emotion or feeling isn't available at this time!!

With the unfortunate, untimely and mostly unexpected deletion of my extremely emotional site - it's been difficult to delete all the links from that site throughout 28+ sites - then the construction of this site in replacement of the deleted site - then re-establishing the underlined work links throughout 28+ sites!!! it's been quite a job!

As you can see... this replacement site is going up as fast as I can possibly work it! Thank you again for your patience and please stop by daily to see if the emotion or feeling you were searching for has been posted!

kathleen

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Tools for Personal Growth

Handling Fear of Success (Info found at www.coping.org source page: click here)

What is fear of success?

Suppressing anxieties of not being good enough.
Uniting all talents & virtues for a greater good
Confronting & dismissing existing fears in an appropriate manner.
Recognizing & welcoming the chance to triumph over competition without feeling unworthy or undeserving
Expressing views & opinions without hesitation.
Setting sights on a goal & achieving it with both sacrifices & rewards.
These make up the rough climb, the seemingly impossible steps that if completed always lead straight to success, rewarding those who persevere.

Melissa M. Messina

Fear of success is the:

Fear that you will accomplish all that you set out to, but that you still won't be happy, content, or satisfied once you reach your goal.
Belief that you are undeserving of all the good things & recognition that come your way as a result of your accomplishments & successes.
Opposite of fear of failure, in that fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes & losing approval. Fear of success is the fear of accomplishment & being recognized & honored.
Lack of belief in your own ability to sustain your progress & the accomplishments you have achieved in your life.
Fear that your accomplishments can self-destruct at anytime.
Belief that no matter how much you are able to achieve or accomplish, it will never be enough to sustain success.
Belief that there are others out there who are better than you, who will replace or displace you if you do not maintain your performance record.
Belief that success is an end in itself; yet that end is not enough to sustain your interest &/or commitment.
Fear that once you have achieved the goals you have worked diligently for, the motivation to continue will fade.
Fear that you will find no happiness in your accomplishments; that you will be perpetually dissatisfied with life.

What are the negative consequences of the fear of success?

Fear of success can result in:

A lack of effort to achieve goals you have set for yourself in school, on the job, at home, in relationships, or in your personal growth.
Self-destructive behavior: tripping yourself up to make sure you don't sustain a certain level of success or achievement you once had in school, on the job, at home, in relationships, or in your personal growth.
Problems making decisions, being unable to solve problems.
Losing the motivation or the desire to grow, achieve & succeed.
Chronic underachievement.
Feeling guilt, confusion & anxiety when you do achieve success. This leads you to falter, waver & eventually lose your momentum.
Sabotaging any gains you made in your personal growth & mental health, because once you become healthier, a better problem solver & more "together," you fear that no one will pay attention to you. You are habituated to receiving help, sympathy & compassionate support.
Your choosing to do just the opposite of what you need to do to be happy, healthy & successful.
Reinforcing your chronic negativity, chronic pessimism & chronic lack of achievement since you can't, visualize yourself in a contented, successful life.
Denouncing your achievements & accomplishments; seeking ways in which you can denigrate yourself enough to lose what you've gained.

What do those who fear success believe?

I have worked so hard to get this far, yet I need to keep on working hard; I'm not sure the effort is worth it.
I know people care about me when I am down & out, but will they like me when I am on top & successful?
I've never been happy before, so how can I be sure I'll be happy once I achieve my goals?
I am nothing & I deserve nothing.
How can people like me if I succeed in reaching my goals in life?
I can't sustain the momentum I would need to achieve my goals.
How can I be sure that my good fortunes won't go sour & be destroyed?
There are always more demands & more needs that have to be met in order for me to be successful, no matter what I do it will never be enough.
They are all better, brighter, smarter & more talented than I am. I really don't deserve to be successful.
It's hard to be at the top!
Everyone is out to shoot down the head man!
No one really likes a winner.
Everyone goes for the underdog.
I am happiest when I am under pressure & challenged.
Hard work, no play & constant effort make me happy. What would I do if it were different?
I feel so guilty when I realize how much I have been given in my life.
I'm always afraid I'm going to lose it all.
Starting over again gives me meaning & a sense of mission & purpose.
I'm so bored with what I've accomplished. What's left to do?
Everyone has the right to fail in life & I have the right to choose to fail if I want to.

What new behavior patterns can help in overcoming your fear of success?

Learning to reinforce yourself for the hard work, effort & sacrifices you've made to achieve success

Being able to honestly appraise your level of achievement, success & accomplishment

Accepting yourself as being healthy, "together," happy, successful, prosperous & accomplished

Not giving yourself any excuses for being unsuccessful

Giving others in your life permission to give you honest, open, candid feedback when they see you self-destructing or backsliding

Monitoring your level of commitment & motivation to reach your goals

Visualizing your life when you are successful

Giving others credit, recognition & support for their personal achievements, successes & accomplishments

Honest, open, realistic self-talk that encourages you to work your hardest to achieve the goals you have set for yourself

Accepting the compliments & recognition of others with an open heart & mind

Steps to overcoming fear of success

Step 1: You first need to identify the fear of success in your life. To do this, answer questions "a'' through "j'' in your journal for each of the following 12 areas:

at school
on the job
with family
in marriage
in relationships
with friends
in your career
in your emotional life
in your hobbies
in sports
in your physical health
in your spiritual life

a. What do I think will happen if I achieve success here?

b. What would success in this area of my life look like?

c. In what ways do I feel undeserving of success here?

d. Who am I afraid of hurting or intimidating if I achieve success here?

e. What do I think is lacking to keep me from sustaining success in this area?

f. What are my biggest concerns about succeeding in this area?

g. Who do I believe is more deserving of the success I have or will achieve here?

h. How motivated am I in the struggle for success in this area?

i. In what ways do I think that once I achieve success here that I will lose focus or direction in other areas of my life?

j. In what ways do I think that I'll be unsatisfied or feel unworthy if I achieve success in this area?

Step 2: Once you have completed Step 1, answer the following questions for the same 12 areas:

a. What evidence is there that I haven't sustained enough effort to achieve my goals in this area?

b. What are my long range goals for this area?

c. In what ways do I self-destruct achievement & success here?

d. How much of a problem do I have in making decisions here?

e. In what ways has my motivation been diminished in this area?

f. In what ways have I been an underachiever in this area?

g. Have I ever felt guilt, confusion or anxiety when I did achieve a level of success here?

h. Have I ever feared losing people's attention, sympathy, or concern if I achieved success here?

i. Have I ever chosen just the opposite of what I needed to be successful in this area?

j. Have I ever put myself down for achieving success in this area?

Step 3: After looking at the negative consequences of the fear of success in each areas of life, identify the beliefs that lead you to fearr success. Once you identify the beliefs for each area, refute them if they are irrational & replace them with rational beliefs. If your beliefs are negative self-scripts, replace them with positive self-affirming scripts. Use the Tools for Coping tools to assist in this.

Step 4: After you have identified your irrational beliefs & replaced them with rational beliefs & self-affirming scripts, identify what new behavior you need to develop in each of the 12 areas. Answer the following questions in your journal:

a. How can I improve the ways in which I reinforce myself?

b. How can I make a more honest appraisal of my accomplishments?

c. How can I accept myself as being successful?

d. How can I eliminate all excuses for being unsuccessful?

e. Who needs to have permission to give me honest feedback when they see me self-destructing?

f. How can I monitor my level of commitment & motivation to succeed?

g. How can I improve the ways I visualize what it will be like when I achieve my goals?

h. How can I improve the ways in which I offer others reinforcement & praise for their individual success & achievements?

i. How can I improve my self-talk to assist me in achieving my goals?

j. How can I learn to accept the compliments & recognition of others for my success?

Step 5: Once you identify the behavior traits you need to develop in your life, make a commitment to accomplish this. If you continue to have a fear of success, however, return to Step 1 & begin again.

Success Begins With Thinking You Are
By Herm Allen

Being successful is all about being positive. If you think of success and being successful, this builds up self-confidence and positive thinking and this is the combination which is needed in order to get the most out of life and succeed in life.

Whatever it is that you wish to achieve, be it at work or in your personal life the key to actually succeeding is believing in yourself and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you want to do.

Thinking success leads to success. Everything that happens around us is dependant on how we think and what we think. Learning how to think positively is the key to learning how to think successfully and once you start to think successfully you have the power to change almost any aspect of your life.

Remember, “As a man thinketh, so is he.”

Every thought we have shapes our lives and determines, to an extent, the outcome of each situation. If we go into something thinking negatively then the outcome will be so different than had we gone into the same situation thinking more positively.

The way we think and talk to ourselves determines how we go into a situation and simply by changing the way we think can change the outcome of that situation. When we fail in a situation this is largely down to our self-limiting thoughts and negative thoughts that we allow to creep in and bring us to feel that we cannot possibly succeed.

In order to change our circumstances or the outcome of a situation we have to change the way our brain thinks, which then changes our outlook which, in turn, alters the situation into a more positive one.

Success is not something that can only be gained by a very few individuals who hold a magical key that others don’t posses. The power to be a success is in us all we just have to realize this and learn how to alter our way of