feeling violated

nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle factors, and every other topic listed within.

navigational hint: all underlined link words open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!

It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!

Reason being: If you're here because you're searching for an answer to your feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, feeling sick, or just general feelings of misery in your life - you need to find a volunteer opportunity that you feel comfortable with.

You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!

Why not just click here now to get it over with! So even if you leave this site after finding some information concerning an emotion or feeling... you'll also leave with the seed of thought concerning volunteer work that might produce some results bringing you a sense of accomplishment & find yourself feeling better!

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what was once - extremely emotional

is now

feeling emotional, five!

What was once - (5 years ago) - only

"understanding anxiety"

is now an entire network of 28 + self-help personal growth & recovery journey informational websites.

5 years ago I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, depression & I was also experiencing an eating disorder that no one knew anything about; night eating.

While I was miserable in experiencing all the symptoms of post traumatic stress, an anxiety disorder & depression - which often accompanies anxiety disorders; I was overjoyed in finally finding out what was wrong with me!

all the lonely people, where do they all come from

Why would someone spend 1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?

I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!

How would I find the time?

Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:

"Helping yourself thru helping others..."

I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!

what is your situation now? how are you feeling?

My immediate concern was "mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to a "mental problem."

I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.

Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life. So I'll start with the mental health site that now exists within the network:

anxieties 101

celebrate each & every small accomplishment!

I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone else.

But since the ruination of the "extremely emotional" site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -

"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of course!)

or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?

Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?" & I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative!

This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the "positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained "power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.

After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words "s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.

"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!

I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences to emotions & feelings!

I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!

kathleen

Important notice:

Please be patient! I thank you for your visit to the site and I apologize for any inconvenience if your emotion or feeling isn't available at this time!!

With the unfortunate, untimely and mostly unexpected deletion of my extremely emotional site - it's been difficult to delete all the links from that site throughout 28+ sites - then the construction of this site in replacement of the deleted site - then re-establishing the underlined work links throughout 28+ sites!!! it's been quite a job!

As you can see... this replacement site is going up as fast as I can possibly work it! Thank you again for your patience and please stop by daily to see if the emotion or feeling you were searching for has been posted!

kathleen

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I've Felt Violated More Than Once

by Kathleen Howe

Have you ever tasted something very bitter before? The taste somehow overtakes your taste buds and you can't seem to get rid of it. Has someone ever said something to you that hurt you to your core? Have you ever been physically injured by someone?

It's a feeling that you have trouble describing. When someone walks up to you and slaps you across the face there's a mixture of so many emotions and feelings that begin to surface. There's the feeling of being humiliated. Feeling humiliated is caused by overwhelming embarrassment when something hurtful happens to you in front of people or not in front of anyone on the other hand. It just happens and you know that it's really wrong. Who gave that person the right to do that to you? It's illegal, it's demeaning. Demeaning is another way some people feel when they've been violated.

Being violated can happen in any number of ways. I've experience many of them. I remember when a very popular boy in the sixth grade grabbed me in the classroom and kissed me straight on the lips because the teacher had left the room and there was some impending chaos. This guy wasn't my boyfriend. He was flirting with me, but this boy was a conceited mess. He was so full of himself that he thought every girl wanted to kiss him. I slapped him across the face.

Everyone in the room stopped what they were doing, not when he violated me when he kissed me, but when I slapped him in defense of my honor. Thirty years later at a class reunion that was all he remembered about me. He had blessed me with a kiss from him and I slapped him across the face! He still hadn't changed one bit! I instantly felt violated when he initially grabbed me by both arms. He was in my space. But when he kissed me on the lips, that hurt me. I didn't want him to kiss me and he did it just to humiliate me. I was violated.

I had that bitter taste in my mouth so to speak every time I thought about that incident. There's something about self esteem that comes into play when you feel violated. You know you're worth more than what someone is trying to do to you. In violating you they are trying to steal something very precious to you. They are trying to steal your POWER. They don't have enough power within their own self, so they steal it from someone else instead of gaining it in a positive way.

Violating people is very negative. But it's the power those violators are more interested than anything else. That kid in the sixth grade wanted me to feel one inch tall. Instead, I slapped him across the face which meant, I didn't like his kiss and that I was insulted at what he had done to me. He had violated me and he needed a consequence for it!

Once you've been violated more than once something happens deep inside of your gut. It gets harder to stay strong and keep your power from whoever is violating you. You get confused from the intensity of the violation. Somehow your self esteem begins to suffer because you think, "What am I doing that says, 'Violate Me?'" Have you ever been there before? It's like when you get a tiny itsy bitsy hole in your Ziploc bag that has dill pickles in it.

The hole somehow starts getting bigger and bigger until instead of a faint spot of pickle juice emerging; it turns into droplets of pickle juice continually streaming out. It's harder to control all that sour dill pickle juice and you suddenly have to give up and throw it away. That's what happens to our self esteem when people continually violate you. It's like you're carrying a big sign in the air that says, "Here I am! Come and violate me and steal my power now because I'm so hurt and tired now I can't defend myself!" And that what seems to happen!

The violations hurt so much, that you lose your ability to think straight. You lose your self esteem. You lose the ability to use common sense and think rationally. Irrational thinking sets in. Soon you begin to think the only way you can attract people is if you let them violate you. You get really confused! So where at first, the first time you were violated it was by accident, no reason, it just happened to you that day. And later on, you begin to invite violations by not being able to defend or protect yourself any longer. It just becomes habit to act like a victim.

This has happened to me. Once I ran out of self esteem, I began to lose my power at a much faster rate. I began behaving in ways that would induce violation. I had a big sign up in my behavior that said, "violate me!" And believe me, there's lots of bullies out there that love taking peoples' power from them. They love violating others because it makes them feel stronger and they feel like less of a loser - yes they do - believe it or not - they believe that their victim is the biggest loser. It's a big circle and it happens very quickly once it begins to go into motion.

Please re-visit this page in the near future and it will be stocked with important articles that if you read them, will educate you further about being violated. Once you've educated yourself enough to understand being violated and what that means, you can feel powerful enough to make changes in your behavior that will be to protect you from being violated. Take this topic seriously! It's very important!

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please have a great day & take a few minutes to explore some of the other sites in the emotional feelings network of sites! explore the unresolved emotions & feelings that may be the cause of some of your pain & hurt... be curious & open to new possibilities! thanks again for visiting at feeling emotional, 5!

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until next time: consider yourself hugged by a friend today!

til' next time! kathleen

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