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nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity
for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a
personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle
factors, and every other topic listed within.
navigational hint: all underlined link words
open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!
It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes.
"Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
welcome...
i'm really glad to see you!
you've found your way to
the emotional feelings network of sites
what was once - extremely emotional
is now
feeling emotional, five!
What was once - (5 years ago) - only
"understanding anxiety"
is now an entire network of 28 + self-help personal growth & recovery journey informational
websites.
Your dictionary definition of:
shakˇen
verb (used
without object)
- to move or sway with short, quick, irregular vibratory movements.
- to tremble with emotion, cold, etc.
- to become dislodged & fall (usually fol. by off or down): Sand
shakes off easily.
- to move something, or its support or container, briskly to and fro or up and down, as in mixing: Shake before using.
- to totter; become unsteady.
- to clasp another's hand in greeting, agreement, congratulations, etc.: Let's shake and be friends
- to agitate or disturb profoundly in feeling: The experience shook him badly.
- to cause to doubt or waver; weaken. to shake one's self-esteem
- a disturbing blow; shock.
- shakes, (used with a singular verb
 ) Informal. a state or spell of trembling, as caused
by fear, fever, cold, etc. (usually prec. by the).
Why would someone spend
1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?
I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It
does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of
personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!
How would I find the time?
Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine
my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:
"Helping yourself thru helping others..."
I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's
wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!
My immediate concern was " mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to
a "mental problem."
I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing
in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms
of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.
Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials
for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources
of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life. So
I'll start with the mental health site that now exists within the network:
I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone
else.
But since the ruination of the " extremely emotional"
site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -
"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of
course!)
or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?
Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?"
& I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative!
This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the " positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained " power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.
After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page
of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words " s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.
"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be
sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity
to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!
I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not
just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences
to emotions & feelings!
I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!
kathleen
Important notice:
Please be patient! I thank you for your visit to the site and I apologize
for any inconvenience if your emotion or feeling isn't available at this time!!
With the unfortunate, untimely and mostly unexpected deletion of my extremely emotional site - it's been
difficult to delete all the links from that site throughout 28+ sites - then the construction of this site in replacement
of the deleted site - then re-establishing the underlined work links throughout 28+ sites!!! it's been quite a job!
As you can see... this replacement site is going up as fast as I can possibly
work it! Thank you again for your patience and please stop by daily to see if the emotion or feeling you were searching for
has been posted!
kathleen
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 Palliative Care
by Kirsti A. Dyer MD, MS, FT for About.com Updated: October 6, 2006 source
site: click here
Sudden and Traumatic Deaths - Trauma, Disasters, Suicide and Murder
A Sudden Death occurs without
any forewarning; it is unanticipated.
A Traumatic Death,
in addition to being sudden, can also be violent, mutilating or destructive; it can be random and/or preventable or may involve
many deaths.
These sudden, accidental,
unexpected or traumatic death shatters the world as we know it; they leave the survivors feeling
shaken, unsure and vulnerable. In this section various resources and information about different types of sudden or traumatic deaths are provided.
The Lightning Bolt that Shatters Our World
Dr. Nathan Kollar, Professor
of Religious Studies at St. John Fisher College offered these words on suffering:
Like a tree struck by lightning--splintered,
shaken, denuded--
our world is broken by suffering, and we will never be the same again. A sudden death occurs without any forewarning; it is unanticipated.
A traumatic death, in addition to being sudden, can also be violent, mutilating or destructive; it can be random and/or preventable
or may involve many deaths. A sudden, accidental, unexpected or traumatic death shatters the world as we know it. It is often
a loss that does not make any sense.
In an instance life is forever
changed. Survivors* are left with the knowledge that life is not always fair and that sometimes bad things happen to good
people. The sudden, traumatic death leaves the survivors feeling shaken, unsure and vulnerable.
*Survivors
are all of those who suffered injuries or losses during traumatic events. Survivors can also be the rescue workers, ems, medical
personell, friends and relatives of the victims.
Definitions - Deaths and Losses
Deaths
A Sudden Death is an instant unexpected
death or a death that occurs within one hour of the onset of symptoms.
An Accidental Death is the loss of life that results
from bodily injury caused by an accident. With an accidental death, survivors are left thinking that the death was so random
and/or preventable that something could have been done to keep it from happening.
A Traumatic Death is one that is also sudden and
unanticipated. The traumatic death is also frequently violent, mutilating or destructive, random and/or preventable. It may
involve multiple deaths or be one in which the mourner has a personal encounter with death.
Losses
A Sudden Loss
is a loss that occurs without any forewarning. In an instant, life is forever changed.
An Accidental
Loss is a loss, often a bodily injury, caused by an accident. There are many different types of losses that can be
experienced.
A Traumatic Loss is a sudden
and unanticipated loss that is also frequently of a violent, mutiliating, destructive nature that may be random and seem preventable.
Definition - Traumatic
Event
A Traumatic Event is an event,
or series of events, that causes moderate to severe stress reactions. Traumatic events are characterized by a sense of horror,
helplessness, serious injury, or the threat of serious injury or death.
Examples of Sudden, Accidental
or Traumatic Deaths
Common examples
of sudden deaths include:
- Heart attack
- Stroke
- Ruptured aneurysm
- Accidents - Car, train, airplane, industrial, vacation etc.
- Post-operative complication
- Anaphylactic reactions (bee
stings, severe allergies)
- Rapidly fatal acute leukemias
- Sudden infant death syndrome
- Rapidly progressive infectious diseases - respiratory anthrax,
certain pneumonias, Legionnaire's
- Suicide
- Homicide
- Natural disasters (Hurricane
Katrina, Christmas Tsunami)
- Human-caused disasters (Oklahoma
City Bombing, the September 11th terrorist attack or any of the recent school shootings)
Each type of sudden loss,
whether a heart or a terrorist attack, leaves survivors bereaved, dazed and vulnerable trying to make sense out of the insensible loss. As survivors of sudden or traumatic death begin to process the loss, they
experience a grief response.
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It's Not Always Death That Causes Us To Feel Shaken
by Kathleen Howe
Yes, I've felt shaken before.
I've felt extremely shaken before. I
am going to say that every woman, man or child who has ever experienced domestic violence in a relationship has felt shaken. Thus, "feeling shaken"
entered the rankings to find itself included here at the new - feeling emotional, 5!
When the pain and anguish of what is an unbelievable truth that is so overwhelming that all you can do is go into shock and your body begins to shake - yes, that happens, but it's the feeling shaken I'm talking about when the most serious of all agonies catches you by surprise although you've been pierced through the heart with the same intensity before so you feel
jaded because you should have known better. I hate to keep relating to my feelings, but I can tell you I was extremely shaken when I took my engagement ring to a jeweler
to get it appraised in trying to sell it for attorney fees - the jeweler took off his little round lens and stared deep
into my eyes.
"I can't give you a dime for this ring. It's not a real diamond or even real gold. I'm sorry."
Eight years of marriage, one son and from the
beginning when he gave me that engagement ring it was all a sham. A police officer was who I married. A man sworn to uphold
the dignity of the morality and law of the American public has bought his fiance a fake diamond ring and then lied to his
girlfriend about it - saying that he took it off my finger in the middle of the night when I slept to sell it for the
much needed money to pay our bills.
"How do you explain that fact to your son from that marriage? How could you have been that
gullible and stupid?" you ask yourself. How could anyone be that bold? How could anyone
be that deceitful? I felt shaken with the news the jeweler told me that day. I walked away from his counter,
his store and into my car which was about to be repossessed - in a trance - unable to feel anything - I was frozen in time. I had been such a fool.
I
felt shaken when my third try at a marriage ended abruptly after only a few months, but
there were certain experiences throughout my three abusive marriages that you can truly understand the meaning of feeling shaken from. I feel very stupid when I write about these specific
experiences but believe me these things happen to people.
These things happen to people who never knew a normal
life. These bizarre experiences would never happen to normal functioning people who understood the true dignity of the institution of marriage. I never knew it and unfortunately, this must have drawn them in - 1- 2 -
3 - one right after the other with barely a breath of fresh air. I didn't know how to live or survive without a man.
I was a total disaster.
As I retell these unfortunate
sagas I have to clearly state that I'm not sure which one shook me more.
I had been experiencing extreme sharp pains with my fourth pregnancy and the doctor was having difficulties finding the cause.
I was already being seen in a high risk clinic because of my age, but I had been overwhelmed with stress and panic as well. The doctor thought it might be my gall bladder that was keeping me up in such extreme pain at night
that I'd sit in the shower under very hot water in a beach chair to try to relieve myself of the intensity of pain I was experiencing.
The father of my child and I weren't married
yet or living together at that time. We had a volatile relationship. But when he barged into my apartment one afternoon to
tell me something, to "fess up" and get something off of his conscience; I never dreamed it would be that he had "herpes"
and had never told me. He yelled it out as he apologized for not telling me before, but now he was afraid that I had contracted it as well and our baby might be in danger. I was shaken to my core.
How could he not tell me this? Incredulously,
I walked away from him and took my eight year old son with me. We walked down the stairs and down the street a few blocks
to a bus stop. Like a zombie, we walked up the stairs of the bus, I plopped the coins through the slot for our fare and sat
down at the closest seat possible. Staring straight ahead, I couldn't speak, or move. I just continued to stare straight ahead
and watching the street signs, did nothing but breathe until I saw the hospital looming on the horizon.
My hand automatically reached up to pull the
stop cord and I heard the bell but it seemed miles away. Without saying a word, as if my son knew that this was something
so horrible that we didn't want to talk about it; he just walked with me. Hand in hand we made it up the hill and into the emergency
room entrance. I couldn't go any further. Contractions were beginning to take me in waves that took my breath away.
I cried out that I was a patient in the clinic and they called my doctor.
She came to get me and I was catatonic. Truly
catatonic, not just in the sense of a descriptive phrase; I was truly shaken to the point
of mental distress. It couldn't have been what he said, in my mind all I could hear were his words over and over
again, "I have herpes. I have herpes." I had no idea what this could do to my baby. I couldn't think or speak or hear
anymore. My doctor, knowing my condition had to call my second husband, the one who was suing me for divorce and
custody of my eight year old son - to come pick him up because I had experienced an accident and was admitted into the hospital.
Within a very short period of time,
my husband had left me to go and live with a young, 23 year old newbie cop who was entertaining all the girls at his house.
He had left not intending to give me a single dime in support. He told me he'd probably be back. He said he needed a break.
I had relinquished my child support for my two older girls, whose father lived in Florida so we could move up to Michigan
where my second husband had been born and raised. He left me and before he did, we had several intense physical fights. He
had punched me in the eye and thrown me outside naked in front of my children.
Within a few weeks, I didn't know what to do.
My kids weren't used to not having their mother home. I had to get a second job to work at night if I was going to have to
pay all the bills. Things were getting very bad. I went on Prozac and Halcion. When my girls were so unhappy with the situation,
I didn't want them to suffer, so I sent them to Florida to live with their father until I could get my life straightened out.
I was in so much pain of heart that I could hardly breathe. I had never been separated from them like this before. I didn't
think I could take it.
I had to give up our home. My son and I had to move in with
some friends until I could figure something out. He wouldn't give me any money - even for what our son needed. I had just
gotten a brand new car. I had high car payments and then I had to find an apartment. Just when I was getting things under
control - I found an apartment that I loved and I thought things might work out, I made a new friend. A woman that lived in
the next door apartment. She was single and we got along great. I moved into the apartment and found day care for my son and
things were beginning to look better.
Suddenly my husband called me and wanted to come back to
me. I loved him and I agreed. I was happy thinking we could get the girls back and things would be wonderful. Totally oblivious
to the abuse I had been subjected to - mental - verbal - physical and even sexual abuse I was excited to have him move in.
My son was happy to have his father back. But it only lasted two weeks and then one day I came home early from work and found
him and my new friend next door in my bed together.
Unfortunately again, I was shaken to the point of mental disturbance. My new friend and my husband, living in the
next apartment, sharing a wall, and she said to me, "I've stolen your husband and now I'm going to steal your son."
It was at that point
I was beyond shaken.
Anyone who has experienced this type of heartfelt
agony and heartbreak knows what I'm talking about. There are people like this out there in the world and somehow I found three
of them. Each one had their forte of evil. Each one hurt me to devastation. Believe it or not, if I had it to do over again,
I would have stayed married the first time. My life would have been unhappy, but it would have been manageable. My children
wouldn't have been affected as they were.
I've seen television shows that have featured
people like the ones I married, and now I'm just grateful that I'm alive because I might not have survived had one more thing
happened in any of the many chaotic traumas I experienced.
If you are experiencing a life full of this type of anguish - get out of it. No
matter what it takes, get out of it. I would hate to think anyone had to experience this type of feeling
shaken to the core.
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you've been visiting
feeling emotional, 5
this site is being designed to take the place of extremely emotional!
please have a great day & take a few minutes to explore
some of the other sites in the emotional feelings network of sites!
explore the unresolved emotions & feelings that may be the cause of some of your pain & hurt... be curious & open
to new possibilities! thanks again for visiting at feeling emotional, 5!
almost 30 sites, all designed, editted & maintained by kathleen!
until next time: consider
yourself hugged by a friend today!
til' next time! kathleen
**disclaimer**
this
is simply an informational website concerning emotions & feelings. it does not advise anyone to perform methods -treatments -
practice described within, endorse methods described anywhere within or advise any visitor with medical or psychological
treatment that should be considered only thru a medical doctor, medical professional, or mental health professional.
in no way are we a medical professional or mental health professional.
thank you for visiting feeling emotional 5!
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